If the dead could talk they would tell you to appreciate life while you have it. To love, to learn and to rejoice. And “if not now, when”?

You were born to be happy. Celebrate your creation.

Enjoy your life,
Abe

Sadly, many people suffer from depression. I have often felt depression is caused by a traumatic event or a dysfunctional lifestyle — not a chemical imbalance as the drug companies would have us believe. In fact, I have had many arguments about this with my medical friends!

Read this article: www.Newsweek.com/id/232781/page/1

Lesson learned: Depressed? Change your thought patterns, live a healthy lifestyle . . . be happy. Learn how, assert your free will, change how you think and react . . . you can do it (if you want)!

Try this for help escaping depression: www.wisdomscientific.com/proddetail.php?prod=506CD&cat=12

P.S. Certainly some individuals suffer from depressive conditions that are biologically based and medical treatment is needed. However, these individuals do not account for the 27 million users counted in 2005.

Regards,
Abe

Hi everybody,

Go ahead and empower yourself to solve your problems. Don’t weaken yourself with unproven beliefs. Here are three common “truths” to trash:

1. “People don’t change.” [Another version] “A leopard doesn’t change its spots” [Meaning people don't change]. Actually, people do change. In fact all of education is based on the precept that “change” is not only possible, but it is easy and for all. If you or a family member has some undesirable behavior, know it can be changed. You, or he or she only needs to “learn” new behaviors.

2. You can only change yourself – you can’t change another person. Sorry, but this has got to be one of the silliest things I have ever heard. The “real truth” is we all influence each other all the time. For example: You want someone to be “nicer,” show them kindness and it will come back to you with dividends.

3. You have to make changes for yourself and not to please others. Balderdash!!! You can, and you do, behave in precise and intentional ways to impress others, to increase the likelihood of getting what you want, etc., etc., etc. For example: When you sought to endear yourself to another, you flirted; dressed in attractive clothes; and carefully constructed your words. You “changed” to please another so they would like/love you. Yes, you can change to please another – and it works and brings you concrete benefits. You can give-up smoking because your family hates it. You can control your anger because you don’t want to frighten your children. You can become more aware of another person’s needs so they will love you.

When I hear these and others so called “truths,” I point to the garbage can and propose this is a good place to leave them.

“Yes we can,” is a much better motto. Hang it on the wall and embed it in your mind. It will give you strength.

Wishing you the best,

Abe

• Depression
• Anxiety
• Out-of-control anger
• Relationship breakdown
• Self-destructive behavior
• and low self-esteem

It is obvious to me why must people suffer. I am including myself. When I am not happy, I know what I am doing to myself that is making me feel the way I do.

Many people find the means to turn around their misery and replace it with peace and happiness. But some don’t. Here’s why . . .

FREE WILL is the most powerful human character trait. I have learned to humble myself to this fact of life. If an individual is set on walking off a cliff—he or she can’t be stopped. Not by a family therapist, not by a police officer, not by a good samaritan, not by a loving family member. NOTHING CAN OVERPOWER FREE WILL. This is life. Accept it.

For me this is often a difficult “pill” to swallow—but I must. Otherwise I would be dragged down by the folly of others. We all must learn when to let go, and then do so.

“Walking off a cliff” could be:

• Substance abuse
• Infidelity
• Destructive sexual behaviors
• Raging at others
• Dishonesty
• Violent behavior
• Excessive self-love that blinds to the feelings of others
• and more

Even though I am a paid professional that has dedicated my life to assisting others upgrade theirs, we are all the same. Each of us has a responsibility to help those we know live a more happy and healthy life.

Make the effort. Let’s contribute to another’s wellbeing. If he or she is helped, celebrate. If not, so be it. You tried and did your best. Regardless of the outcome, you are a better person for your efforts. And this is important to remember!

Some people don’t feel capable of guiding others. Actually we all have what it takes to be a leader and give “good” to others. If you don’t feel your own strength, I have a lesson to help you: Strong Self-esteem — like yourself now and forever. Live with your personal-power.
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Regards to you and your family,
Abe