Three “truths” to trash
Three “truths” to trash
Hi everybody,
Go ahead and empower yourself to solve your problems. Don’t weaken yourself with unproven beliefs. Here are three common “truths” to trash:
1. “People don’t change.” [Another version] “A leopard doesn’t change its spots” [Meaning people don't change]. Actually, people do change. In fact all of education is based on the precept that “change” is not only possible, but it is easy and for all. If you or a family member has some undesirable behavior, know it can be changed. You, or he or she only needs to “learn” new behaviors.
2. You can only change yourself – you can’t change another person. Sorry, but this has got to be one of the silliest things I have ever heard. The “real truth” is we all influence each other all the time. For example: You want someone to be “nicer,” show them kindness and it will come back to you with dividends.
3. You have to make changes for yourself and not to please others. Balderdash!!! You can, and you do, behave in precise and intentional ways to impress others, to increase the likelihood of getting what you want, etc., etc., etc. For example: When you sought to endear yourself to another, you flirted; dressed in attractive clothes; and carefully constructed your words. You “changed” to please another so they would like/love you. Yes, you can change to please another – and it works and brings you concrete benefits. You can give-up smoking because your family hates it. You can control your anger because you don’t want to frighten your children. You can become more aware of another person’s needs so they will love you.
When I hear these and others so called “truths,” I point to the garbage can and propose this is a good place to leave them.
“Yes we can,” is a much better motto. Hang it on the wall and embed it in your mind. It will give you strength.
Wishing you the best,
Abe
What do millions of decisions lead to?
Happiness is not the result of good fortune. It comes with the accumulation of millions of good decisions. Happiness is achieved in two ways:
1. How we interact with the world. The three most important things in life are family, money, and health. None of these three blessings come without effort. “Family” is built with harmonious relationships with others. “Money” comes from earning and conserving. A failure in either will lead to poverty. “Health” can be enhanced or ruined by how we treat our body.
2. How we interpret what happens to us. Things happen. This is life. Sometimes they are anticipated and sometimes they come as a total surprise. How you interpret what happens creates “your story.” Give “it” a positive spin, and it will feel good. The opposite is also true.
Excluding major tragedy, we make or break our happiness. Isn’t it fortunate that we have so much control over our lives?
From times of old until today; soul searchers, mystics, and the spiritual have sought perpetual happiness. Those that have succeeded have mastered the above. In my next edition of Moment of Wisdom, I will tell you a bit about how to do it.
Until then, be well and love those close to you. No one is perfect. But he or she needs your love, and so too, you need theirs.
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Wishing you and your family the best,
Abe
What’s predictable about life?
I don’t know about you, but more than several times my head has spun. I thought something was going one way, and then it went the other way. And often within a few seconds.
Examples:
- Health to illness
- Illness to health
- Wealth to poverty
- Poverty to wealth
- Strength to weakness
- Weakness to strength
- Hope to fear
- Fear to hope
Be a winner. Recognize how life is, and fittingly adjust your expectations. Doing so allows you to minimize, eliminate, or even benefit from the very thing not wanted.
Margaret had strong signs she had cancer. She was a nervous wreck for three months taking test after test, until finally the doctor proclaimed her healthy. Margaret ruined three months of her life worrying needlessly.
Sheila and Mark had been fighting for years. Avoiding each other they fell into some serous vice. Sheila realized that her only hope for love was with her husband Mark. They went for marriage counseling and renewed their marriage, reclaiming the passion they once had.
Tom lost his job. He and his wife fought about money. Eventually they divorced. One month later Tom got a new and better job. Had he and his wife pulled together they could have used the time to strengthen their relationship. Instead they destroyed their family of four.
Collins was a mega businessman and mega billionaire. He had everything he wanted. One winter he slipped on a piece of ice. He broke his leg. Two years later he was still in a wheelchair. He became severely depressed.
Phyllis was in a serous car accident. She walked with a limp. She married another patient she met at a physiotherapy clinic. She has never been so happy in all her life.
Can you pick out the winners in the above stories?
We cannot choose what happens to us. But we do have the power to choose our response. Certainly, when in the midst of a crisis, realizing this is difficult, and no one can judge us other than ourselves. But the fact is, many have benefited by a crisis.
I pray all goes well for you . . . always. But if it is not to be, do your best to respond with intelligence, dignity, and a mind seeking a silver-lining.
One thing is predictable about “life,” it has ups-and-downs. Winners accept this reality.
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