Living with difficult people!!!
October 15th, 2007 by Abe Kass
Life is full of challenges. Few of them can be as overwhelmingas living with a “difficult person.”
There are six categories of difficult people:
1. Stubborn: Even when they are wrong–and they know it–they are still right. He or she will resist reason to the bitter end. With a stubborn person talking or pleading is useless. At times,living with such a person can feel like mental torture.
2. Traffic-cop: Everything you do evokes a comment and a directive. It feels like their finger is continuously between your
eyes. The “traffic cop’s” reasons he or she is only helping. Livingwith such a person can feel like being smothered by wet blanket.
3. Always-right: They need to continually assert that they knowbetter than you. “My way or the highway,” is there mantra. Evenif it is a trivial as the weather. You think it is cold, but the“always-right” argues it is hot. Around such a person it feels like you always need to defend yourself and it is exhausting.
4. Love-of-self: Such a person always demands the he or she isthe center of attention. Even if you have a problem, within a few moments it becomes the “Love-of-self’s” problem. It’s easy to feel invisible around such people.
5. Angry: Hot anger (explosive outbursts), or cold anger (sarcasms), and everything in between, living with such individuals can be a nightmare. They evoke in others fear, resentment, and despair.
6. Obsessed. When such a person becomes upset they can’t let go.
Being around such a person is boring, annoying, and often a
waste-of-time.
7. Melodramatic. Whatever happens to the “melodramatic,” he or she always turns it into a drama. An insult becomes a major crisis, the flue life threatening! Being around the “melodramatic” is like being in an action packed movie that never ends. If feels like you can never catch your breath.
What to do: Be assertive and make sure you have enough breathing room. The worst thing you can do is become absorbed in their “craziness.” Clear emotional boundaries are important and make sure your life is balanced. Compensate for the others deficiencies by taking good care of yourself. And most important, know who you are—if you are reasonable and fair—don’t believe anything else.
Kind regards,
Abe
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