Will the volcanic eruptions end?
The world is fixated on eruptions and the fall of volcanic ash. Stranded travelers, millions of dollars lost to the travel industry, price gouging from some whom are supposedly offering a helping hand. No question – this is a calamity of great significance! And when will it all end? No one can say.
When the volcano within the home erupts, and those present burn (emotionally). Who cares? Walking through the parking lot today I witnessed an angry mother terrorizing her four-year-old daughter. She yelled, she yanked her arm, she threatened, and she dragged – all the while holding an infant in her other arm; and not once; not twice, not thrice. I lost track as she pulled her daughter into the mall.
Well, this mom is a “volcano.” And where does the ash fall? Answer: Onto the tender skin of her frightened four-year-old; “mom’s anger” gradually seeping in and poisoning her young heart so she too will cruelly chastise when of age.
When was the last time the volcano in Iceland let go its fire? Do the eruptions and fallout ever end?
Will the volcanic eruptions and fallout at home ever end? It depends. If you grew up with anger get rid of it quickly. Remove the anger poison from your heart. Learn to be patient, sensitive, and loving. This is the best way to stop the burning and destruction. Stop “stranding” family members. Turn yourself and your family into a dwelling place of comfort and peace.
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ANGER CONTROL TIP: Never blame anyone else for your anger. Only then are you empowered to stay calm in every situation.
Banish Loneliness in Three Easy Steps or What’s Wrong With Social Networking Sites
We all feel lonely at times. You may feel lonely because simply you are alone. You may feel lonely because you can’t seem to connect with the important people in your life. Or you may feel lonely for both the above reasons.
Perhaps this is one of the reasons “social networking sites” are currently so popular – it’s an easy way to connect with others. The downside is that these connections are superficial and lack genuine intimacy.
Here is a sure way to connect to new or old individuals in your life. I call it the One Two Three – Be Close to Me technique. Here are the 3 steps:
1. Ask a question that cannot be answered with a “yes” or “no.”
2. Summarize the answer you hear. Don’t change anything even if you don’t like what the speaker says.
3. Repeat step #1 and #2 for a few minutes.
Doing the “One Two Three – Be Close to Me” technique makes the person answering your questions feel close to you. And if he or she returns the favor – this will come pretty close to heaven on earth. Being KNOWN is a very satisfying intimacy.
Regards,
Abe
www.WisdomScientific.com
Thoughts that destroy!
**Moment of Wisdom #19**
by Abe Kass, M.A., R.S.W., R.M.F.T.
Family Therapist, Esoteric Thinker, Author
When angry at your partner your mind does two things: 1) Repeats — you think over and over again what you are angry about and 2) Embellishes — you make up details that never happened.
Example: Your spouse insults you. 1) You mentally “repeat” the insult. This keeps your anger alive. 2) You “embellish.” This intensifies the anger.
In your head it may sound like this: “She/he insulted me. She said I was . . . (you repeat this 1,000 times).” “She/he always insults me, She/he treats me very poorly, She/he doesn’t love me (you embellished with extra thoughts that the facts (what actually happened) can’t support — see underlines.
This anger provoking thinking can continue for hours and even days gradually eroding positive feelings toward your partner.
For the health of your relationship you must stop these damaging thoughts. Here are three steps:
1. Reject anger. Recognize that keeping the anger going provides no comfort for you or improvement to your relationship. Better to kill these damaging thoughts.
2. Distract yourself. Do something in particular that engages your mind. You need to grab your attention so the unhealthy angry thoughts are replaced with more calming and healthy thoughts.
3. Stand guard against future angry thoughts. When they appear, reject them.
Relationship harmony requires not only love and attraction, but also a willingness to forgive mistakes your partner makes. This requires self discipline – specifically the rejection of angry thoughts.
The best,
Abe